Betrayal occurs when a supporter cuts you down behind your back. Office politics see bosses and coworkers do this. So, how can we tell? What are the signs of betrayal at work?
The Game That Sheds Light on Betrayal
A form of game theory show what the signs are. In this case, researchers used a real game, Diplomacy. This game is unique because a conference phase drives it. That makes it a game of collaboration. That is because no one can win without help from others. Thus, alliances form.
At the end of this phase, in secret, players write down their moves. Then, they show them at the same time. They can move all or none of their pieces. They can support the moves of other players.
At some point, alliances fall apart. One side betrays the other. So, researchers looked at the communications that occurred before then. The game’s online version preserves an extensive history for them to examine.
Signs of Betrayal at Work
How does all this show up as signs of betrayal at work? There are six. The first three are from the research. I’ve modified them and added others. Betrayers tend to:
- Be more positive, enthusiastic and polite
- Say less about future plans
- Talk more than normal
- Reduce interactions
- Offer advice on the victim’s faults
- Hint at bad news
Betrayers often need to offset unconsciously some guilt. Talking more but saying less about future work and plans allows them to feel friendly.
Giving advice and hinting at bad news allows them to feel helpful. “Can I give you some advice (as a friend)?” and “Do you think you should count on that?” allow them to say to themselves, “I tried to warn him.”
Examples of Betrayal at Work
Tight budgets and timeframes in a low-growth business make it ripe for betrayals. They aren’t so clear most times. It could start with a boss who endorsed a hire or worker for a project. It could be a coworker who praised an employee’s work.
Things change. Pressure increases dishonesty. The worker becomes the boss’ fodder for a failed project. He becomes a way for the coworker to shift the search for blame elsewhere. Cutbacks must occur.
Few like to think like this. Still, knowing the signs of betrayal at work helps. One can take precautions. After all, it’s a career . . . not a game.