Complimenting is critical to our success. There are many ways to do it. Some ways are better than others.
Complimenting is critical to networking upward. It presents us as positive and happy. It massages egos and lowers guards.
Strategic complimenting is critical to leadership. It builds organizational cultures and teams. It motivates and develops people.
Powerful Two-Word Compliment
“You’re right!” is a very powerful compliment. It is only two words too. There are many complements to this compliment. Here are a few. “You’re right . . .”
- “I never thought of that.”
- “I’ve never looked at it that way.”
- “That’s certainly a good way to do it.”
- “Your idea would work.”
- “That’s how they would feel about it.”
Want to test it? Try it out on spouses or significant others. Be prepared for a jibe or two though.
Example Compliment’s Power
If you do not want to test it. I use this clip from the comedy movie, Animal House, as an example of the power in “You’re Right” Compliment.
Key phrase occurs at 1:50 mark. Please note profanity and threats used.
A cavalier fraternity, in which a brother Bluto played by John Belushi is trying to rally the house after being expelled from college for failing grades and unbecoming behavior. After his rally cry failed, one brother finally yelled, “Bluto’s right!” The look on Bluto’s face is a combination of surprise, bewilderment and doubt. We can tell that no one ever told him that.
Complimenting With It Can Be Difficult
People tend to find it difficult to compliment others let alone tell them they are right. They might have received few compliments in their lives. They might fear coming across as insincere.
Compliments can trigger fears of weakness. The warm and fuzzy feelings they stir can do this. Saying someone is right might seem as though we are saying we are wrong.
The above clip would not be funny if telling people they were right were a common event. How many times have you heard it? How many times have you heard others say it to others?
Go ahead. Practice. See for yourself. In your next conversation, find one thing the person was right about. Compliment him. Even if nothing happens, you will be happier.