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11 Sep 2014

Encouraging More Questions in Group Interactions

This entry is part 5 of 9 in the series Leveraging Group Interactions

Leveraging group interactions to mold relationships and culture.

How we handle the first question will determine whether we get more.

Once we secure the first question in our group interactions (i.e. presentations, meetings, gatherings, events), we’re only halfway home. Our handling of that first question will largely determine whether we get more. It’s a test. These five techniques will help us pass:

  1. Demonstrate appreciation for the question.
  2. Be sincere with any remark about it.
  3. Associate questioner’s name to it.
  4. Explain how question helps you or the discussion.
  5. Keep answer short.

Appreciation can be as direct as saying, “Thank you for getting us started with your question. I appreciate it.” Indirectly, it can be a compliment about the question’s quality or about how it allows elaboration on a favorite topic. Avoid saying, “Good question,” as it’s trite and commonly known as a stall until we formulate our answer. Complimenting questions is very similar to complimenting people: we should tailor it.

Part of appreciating the question is realizing it belongs to the questioner. Therefore, we personify it with the questioner’s name. This also helps pragmatically by allowing us to reference the question easily without having to repeat (i.e. “As I was saying about Mike’s question . . .”).

We treat the first question as the gift it is. Whereas we demonstrate appreciation by complimenting its unique aspects, this treatment is more pragmatic, showing how it facilitates better understanding, exploring more detail or sharing additional points. While similar to a compliment, it’s more pragmatic by sharing how the question helps the discussion. People like to be helpful. It reinforces their sense of self-worth.

Finally, we keep our answer short. Extended answers kill future questions by exposing our anxiety that another might not be forthcoming.

These five techniques ensure more questions after the first and an interactive discussion. That interactivity give us and our points greater influence.


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2 Responses

  1. Very true: need to acknowledge the source and the features of the question for sure. The tough one, for me, is how to decide about soliciting responses rather than providing them. I never have a problem if I’m searching for a response – will never misrepresent my response; nothing wrong with a “I’m not sure; can anyone get us started with this question?” Or “Might you add some context for your question; what led up to the question, why is it of interest to you?” The best situation I believe is when the question is sparks a multi-faceted discussion – with me as the mentor mostly.

    1. Mike Lehr

      John, there are many different ways to encourage interactions. Asking a question about the question certainly conveys interest and value for the question. In the examples you give, I’m having a hard time seeing what’s tough. Either will work depending on the situation.

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